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RABBI ARTHUR SEGAL: DO not bear a grudge : JEWISH SPIRITUALITY
Jewish Spiritual Renewal: Derek Eretz Zuta + Rabbah: Shabbat 10/30/10
(aka Derech Eretz)
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Shalom my dear Chaverim, Talmidim, v' Rabbanim:
We continue with our exploration into the Talmudic Tractates of Derek Eretz Zuta and Rabbah. (aka Derech Eretz), For those new to the class, Baruch ha Ba! Welcome! You can access last week's class at
Rabbi Arthur Segal: RABBI ARTHUR SEGAL: JEWISH RENEWAL : Rabbi Nachman of Bratslav : MUSSAR GROWTH or http://rabbiarthursegal.blogspot.com/2010/10/rabbi-arthur-segal-jewish-renewal-rabbi.html . From there you will find a link to preceding classes in this new series.
So. together we continue:
TALMUD BAVLI TRACTATE DEREK
ERETZ ZUTA.
(aka Derech Eretz)
CHAPTER I.
1. The qualities of the sages are: Modesty, meekness, eagerness, courage, bearing wrongs done to them,and being endeared to every one; submission to the members of their household, fear of sin, and judging every one according to his deeds.
In our last classes, we discussed Modesty , Humility, Meekness, Eagerness and Eagerness. Today I invite you to explore with me the middah, trait, of bearing wrongs done to us.
As we discussed in the first class, and this is for the benefit of those new to the class, Judaism calls the ethical behavior that is expected from one person to another Derek Eretz. Literally this means '' the way of the land.'' It means behaving appropriately as one mindfully walks with God . Two Tractates of Talmud are devoted to this: Derek Eretz Zuta and Rabbah. Zuta means small in Aramaic and Rabbah means big. We have seen Rabbah used when we say Todah Rabbah (thanks a lot) to someone, or in the Midrash Rabbah (the Great Midrash). The word Zuta we do not often see used and has become archaic.
Another Hebrew word used is Mussar. In modern parlance it means self- improvement : spiritual and ethical personal growth.
I have heard many times that Judaism is a ''legalistic religion'' while one of the USA's major religions is a ''way of love.'' While Judaism certainly has its rules, stemming from its Hebraic roots, all of Torah, and Talmud is to teach loving kindness. The Talmud Tractate Beracoth is clear that any Rabbinic commandment asking us to do some ritual, must be waved for the honor and feelings of another. Love of God is to lead us to love of all of our fellows.
It is easy to love our neighbor when all is going well. But how do we love our neighbor who mows his lawn at 6 AM on a Sunday? The answer is in Leviticus 19: 17-18. When we are told not to hate, not to revenge, not to resent, but to love, and to gently instruct when someone is on the wrong path, the verse ends with "I am God." It is only via God's love, that we are able to love all, even those folks who annoy us.
The Talmud via Rabbi Akiva states that the two most important commandments are love of one's fellow and love of God. The Talmud's Rabbi Hillel defines a behavior pattern to lead us to love and not to hate: ''What is hateful unto you, do not do to your fellows.'' This lead to compiling rules of Derek Eretz , how we relate to each other.
"Whether a man really loves the Divine can be determined by the love he bears toward his fellow men." Rebbe Levi Yitzchok of Berditchev, Poland (1740-1810). We have all seen others, even in ourselves, even in myself if I am not 100% God-conscious and connected, how we can be at synagogues, praying to God, or sending email ditties telling our friends to 'trust in Ha Shem,' or all holding hands singing Heni Ma Tovu (How good and pleasant it is when brothers (and sisters) dwell in unity), and then drive by ignoring someone with a flat tire, or do lashon ha ra about someone, or even have one rabbi ignore or slander another. The real test to see how one loves God, is to see how one loves and treats all of his or her fellows. Its easy to be nice to someone we like. When we can love a person who rubs us the wrong way then we know we have listened to that ''still small voice", that eternal spark of the Divine, inside all of us.
The Midrash teaches: All Jews are ma'aminim b'nei ma'aminim, believers who are descendants of believers, but most important is not faith itself, but actions which point to one's faith.
Some more Midrash: D'Vei Eliyahu Rabbah (ch. 28) states: The Holy One, Blessed is He, said to Israel: My beloved children! Is there anything I lack that I should have to ask of you? All I ask of you is that you love one another, that you honor one another, that you respect one another. In this way, no sin, robbery, or base deed will be found among you, so that you will remain undefiled forever. Thus it is written, "He has told you, O man, what is good, and what Ha Shem seeks of you — only the doing of justice, loving kindness, and walking humbly with Ha Shem, your God" (Mic: 6:8).
Some Kabbalah from the Zohar Genesis on Parasha Mikeitz 201b : Not only did Yosef not repay his brothers in kind [for their having sold him], but he acted toward them with kindness and truth. Such is always the way of the righteous. Therefore, the Holy One, Blessed is He, forever watches over them, in this world and in the next.
The Torah tells us: Lev: 19:18 : "You shall not take revenge and you shall not bear a grudge ; you shall love your fellow as yourself." If it happens that one's fellow acted improperly towards us, we must not take revenge or bear a grudge. Rather, we must erase the matter from our heart, and seek to do good in every way with that person, just as he would with any other person, as if nothing negative had ever come between us. This is what Judaism requires of us. To do anything less, is not Judaic, and shows us spiritually disconnected from God.
This is why each of us each night is to do the bed time Shema. I have been doing it for years, and it has help change me. I sleep like a log. Why go to bed, or walk around each day, having someone in our heads, not paying rent? Why keep a grudge when its only going to be an acid eating away at the container (us)?
The first paragraph of the Bedtime Shema is:'' Master of the universe, I hereby forgive anyone who angered or antagonized me or who sinned against me — whether against my body, my property, my honor or against anything of mine; whether he did so accidentally, willfully, carelessly, or purposely; whether through speech, deed, thought, or notion; whether in this transmigration or another transmigration. May no man be punished because of me. May it will be Your will, Ha Shem, my God and the God of my forefathers, that I may sin no more. Whatever sins I have done before You, may You blot out in Your abundant mercies, but not through suffering or bad illnesses. May the expressions of my mouth and the thoughts of my heart find favor before You, Ha Shem, my Rock and my Redeemer.'' The last line is from the TaNaK: Psalms 19:15. THE BEDTIME SHEMA
It is only in the 3rd paragraph that we say the actual Shema acknowledging God as One. As we have shown over and over in last year's class on Jewish ethics and spirituality, it is our relationship with others, the man to man mitzvoth, that takes precedence over the man to God mitzvoth.
Judaism's Derek Eretz teaches us to try to live by these wonderful guidelines:
"If others speak evil of you let the worst thing said seem unimportant in your eyes; but if you have spoken evil of others, let the least word of it seem important.
If you have done much good, let it seem little in your eyes, and say: 'Not of mine own have I done this, but of that good which has come to me through others.' However, let a small kindness done to you appear great." (Talmud Tractate Bavli Derek Eretz Zuta).
We discuss exactly how to rid our selves of grudges and resentments and learn to bear wrongs done to us, in Chapter Four of The Handbook to Jewish Spiritual Renewal: A Path of Transformation for the Modern Jew
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What are your ideas about bearing wrongs ? How does living a life without revenge or resentments play a role in your spiritual life? How have you combated your desire to hold grudges or to seek revenge?
Next week, Baruch ha Shem, we will continue with Derek Eretz Zuta, 1:1. [Derech Eretz Zuta]
For those who want a d'var Torah on Parasha Chayei Sarah from
or http://www.jewishspiritualrenewal.net/index.html#Compendium2
please click on:
please click on:
Rabbi Arthur Segal: RABBI ARTHUR SEGAL : CHUMASH CANDESCENCE: PARASHA CHAYEI SARAH: GENESIS 23:01-25:18 or http://rabbiarthursegal.blogspot.com/2008/02/chumash-candescence-parasha-chayei.html .
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